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Re’e: A Cup Of Coffee

Submitted by on August 9, 2009 – 4:44 amNo Comment | 2,828 views

My Coffee Summit
I have a vice, especially on long trips,called  coffee.
I got back to the car and shared this exchange with my wife. There is a sermon in this somewhere, she observed, and she was right. Here it is.

The Right Fit

The cover for the coffee cup determines just how much coffee will pour out when you tilt the cup. If the cover is too small or too big you will be greeted by a torrent of coffee. Not only will you be unable to drink – you will get burned.

In life finding the right size cover is crucial. Before you delve into any project, hobby, crusade or career you need to determine just how important that is within the context of your life. If it is a most important project and you don’t devote enough time to it you will likely fail and regret it. If it is not an important project and you pour too much effort into it you will drain time and energy from the really important things in life leaving you off balance once more.

Gardening is important, but not as important as spending time with the kids. Social time with friends is important, but not as important as intimate time with your spouse. Making money is important, but not as important as keeping Shabbat. Pleasing ourselves and the people around us is important, but not as important as pleasing G-d. Every coffee cup, irrespective of its flavor or size, has a cover that fits it. a cup of  coffee - innerstreamEvery endeavor, irrespective of its importance and composition, has a slot that is right for it. Keeping it in its slot is crucial to its success. Selecting a cover one size to large or small is a recipe for disaster.

Securing The Weak Links

Identifying the right size cover is only half the battle. The other half is fitting it to the cup correctly. This is where you have to tamp down all the edges and ensure that it is snug. If even one end is loose the coffee will burst out; not only will you lose your coffee you will end up scalded, soaked and stained.

The same holds true in life. Once you determine the relative value of your endeavor you must devote yourself to it fully within its allotted slot. Engaging in any endeavor with half a heart is waste of effort; you may as well not bother in the first place. The Lubavitcher Rebbe once asked his father in law, the former Rebbe, how he managed to fit so much into his short schedule. The Rebbe replied, you cannot add an hour to your day nor can you extend your night by an hour, but you can ensure that whatever you do receives your absolute attention so that for the duration of that task it is all you think of.

If you tamp down the edges and devote yourself exclusively to the task at hand you will succeed not only in your task, but in balancing it against your other priorities. If you try to accomplish too many things at the same time, if you do one thing while thinking of another, not only will neither get done, you will end up frustrated, discouraged and ultimately unsuccessful.


In the Torah G-d informs us that He communicates to us through prophets. However, we must beware of false prophets. Prophets who attempt to change the Torah, by adding or canceling a Mitzvah must be rejected. The prophet is the funnel through which G-d’s thoughts are communicated. Just like the coffee cup’s mouthpiece, the prophecy must fit the Torah perfectly. If it adds a Mitzvah it is too large, if it cancels one it is too small. This kind of prophecy is the wrong fit and must be rejected.

However, once the prophet has been authenticated we are required to accept the prophecy with a full heart and erase all traces of doubt. The time for questions is during authentification. Once the prophet has been determined the right fit for the Torah we must tamp down the edges and drink it all down. (1)


In Judaism, as in life, we never remain stagnant; we either move foreword or fall back. Every day, week, month and year, especially as the new year dawns, we must seek to continue our pattern of growth by finding a new Mitzvah or a new slot for Torah study to incorporate into our lives. But we must determine that the new resolution fits well with our existing commitments. It must offer just the right amount of tension; enough to nudge us forward, but not enough to fray our rope. Once we find the right pace of growth, we must batten down the hatches and move forward with zeal. Hesitant steps impede progress, aggressive steps jeopardize it. The path to progress is paved with deliberate steps rooted in forethought, optimism and cautious wisdom.

Freshly Brewed

I must admit it was a productive coffee because while there I also got a lesson on how often coffee must be brewed to keep it fresh. Studies have shown that coffee remains fresh for up to sixty minutes, however, to maintain their edge, Starbucks brews fresh coffee every thirty minutes.

How true this is in life. The Torah instructs us to study every day. Though yesterday’s knowledge is not yet forgotten we must study again today. To maintain our edge we must ensure that our Torah knowledge never grows stale. It must be fresh in our minds, vibrant in our hearts and sharp on our tongues.

One last feature of Starbucks is the joyous atmosphere. A happy customer, they tell me, is a willing customer and a willing customer is a repeat customer. The Torah too must be practiced with joy. Worship G-d with joy and come before him in song. (2) A joyful Jew is a willing Jew and if we will it, there is little that cannot be accomplished.


  1. Psalms 100: 2. Joy is one of the pillars on which the Baal Shem Tov founded the Chassidic Movement.
  2. Deuteronomy 13: 1-6.

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